Today we will be reviewing another part of -Chapter 3: "Womanly Dominion Deceitfully Assaulted". I look forward to hearing your thoughts on this :)
I am continuing in chapter three this week. Satan wants us to leave our dominion mindset and take on a victimization mindset. Isn't that common in our society today? So many fall into the victim mantality. Mr. Chanski goes on to list four contemporary lies. Last week we reviewed the first. Today we will be reviewing the third.
3. You’re a Marital Victim
Mark Chanski writes, "Let's consider another hiss. "I know God's called you to be a helper suitable to your mate, but with that creep of a husband, He's got to be kidding!"
Before he gets into our responsiblity as wives, he gives a sample of what he writes in "Manly Dominion" to the husbands. And he doesn't go easy on them either!
It is a temptation for the woman to blame her husband. It is easier to point the finger at someone else than to take responsibility for our own actions. Jesus gives us the example in John 21:21-22 as to what we are to do:
"Peter, seeing him, said to Jesus, “But Lord, what about this man?”
Jesus said to him, “If I will that he remain till I come, what is that to you? You follow Me.”
The author goes on to point out how selfless the Proverbs 31 woman is. She goes about serving others and what does she get in return? Her husband praises her and her children rise up and bless her (31:28).
Nancy Leigh DeMoss responds by writing that the way the Proverbs 31 woman received all these benefits was by choosing the pathway of servanthood. She put God first and then meeting the needs of her family second.
The topic of husbands helping with the housework is addressed as well. I hesitate to approach this topic since it is a sticky one. There is nothing wrong with a husband helping his wife with the housework, cooking, laundry, etc. However, when we as women expect our husband to serve us by helping with these things and we are resentful when they don't, there is a problem. I have seen women boss their husbands around and demand that they help with these things. We must remember that Eve was created to be Adam's helpmate and we are our husband's helpers. Mr. Chanski summarizes by writing "Stop blaming your man, and start helping him!" What is your favorite way to help your husband?
Linking up with The Chatty Mommy today. Won't you join me?
This sounds like a good book! My church has been giving some sermons on this same topic lately! :)
ReplyDeleteGood job with this book. And the roles of husband and wife are really getting changed up these days. I see more marriages where the husband does the cooking, 1/2 of the cleaning, etc. even to the point he is put on the family chore list..and this is with wives that stay at home or work part time. I see my sons are seeing a different world than what we showed them...they feel they need to be able to do so much domestic housework on top of their careers, because the girls are all getting masters and plan to have careers outside the home. This is all very different for me. Thanks for sharing this book...there are still some of us living more traditionally.
ReplyDeleteThe beginning of this was very convicting...thanks also for that strong word.
mmm our sermon was about being a victim yesterday, God doesn't want us to be victims but to overcome! We should never be resentful, but I always like to follow up husband and wife talks with the fact that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves the church. That is pretty intense love and serving. hugs!
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