Monday, August 2, 2010



It is week 8 of the Completing Him Marriage Challenge hosted by Courtney at Women Living Well.  This week she writes:

“This week - take some time to assess your husband's respect-o-meter. Ask him what sort of things you do that make him feel disrespected and respected. Work on weeding out disrespectful thoughts and attitudes and exchanging them for respectful ones.”

It is easy to do what we should be doing when everyone else is doing what we think they should be doing.  It is more difficult when we feel like everyone else is not holding up their end of the deal.  For example, we are commanded to love our neighbors.  That is easy to do when we have neighbors who are considerate of us.  But what about when their teens park their cars in front of our house and leave their garbage there?  I certainly do not feel like loving them, but I still can respond in a loving way.

We are commanded to respect our husbands in scripture, and husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the church.

“Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:33

Are you holding up your end? 



  1. Hello, Theresa! I'm participating in the Completing Him Challenge, too! May God Bless Your Marriage as you seek to respect your husband today!

    Homemaker Honey

  2. Well I almost didn't come here this morning when I saw the topic...LOL :) because I know I am not good at this one. I think when there is stress pressing each of you in a marriage and financial is one of the largest, it is easy to let this slip.
    I had thought about this all weekend before your post...was I giving my husband respect or taking out my frustrations on him?
    I am so glad God's grace and mercy is new everyday and He sees my heart and helps to mend what I have torn down.
    Thanks so much for the reminder...I am sure I will be tested in this area all week...:)

  3. Great advice and encouragement to weed out what is not respectful and exchange them with better respectful ones. Also love the tip about responding in a loving manner. These things go a long way!

  4. "It is easy to do what we should be doing when everyone else is doing what we think they should be doing. It is more difficult when we feel like everyone else is not holding up their end of the deal."

    That is SO true! This a great challenge, Theresa.

  5. Praying for God's richest blessings on your marriage!
    Stopping by from the "Completing Him Challenge!"

  6. So true, so much easier to respect those who respect us. I'm going to ask my hubby that question about respect...I'd like to think I show him respect, but I'll be interested to learn what areas I could use some work on ;)

  7. Theresa, I am always so glad you share! What a great reminder that we are to respect our husbands- & it is not based on our circumstances!

  8. In our 15 years together, my husband and I have cultivated a deep respect for eachother. We both feel respect and love. In our first year of marriage, we went through marriage counseling because we were arguing lots and didn't want to mess up our relationship- this was one of the things we learned to improve right from the very start... great post!

  9. I just heard another message about respect in marriage. I need to work on this one each and every day. With Christ, it's more than possible.

  10. Great post! A wonderful reminder that we all sin and fall short of the glory of God. We need constant reminders to live as He calls us.

  11. I love it when women teach how to really love & respect their husbands!!

    Happy iFellowship Day my sweet friend!

  12. How well God knows us that men thrive on respect and women on love.
    Thanks for the Ifellowship visit - I'm doing my visits a bit late but still enjoying everyone's blogs.


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